If someone told you that being in a relationship is easy, chances are they didn’t experienced one. Fairytales paint a perfect picture of what everyone would like; love at first sight, happily ever after; and in a perfect world that is a possibility, but in the real world a good relationship takes team work.
A lot of time and effort is put into making a loving relationship long-lasting, much like anything that is worth something to us. Just like our daily lives, there are good and bad days in relationships as well. Which is why when the going gets tough, it can become very easy to give up and jump ship. However, if you are committed to a successful relationship and really love and value your partner, then you will keep on fighting for it.
One aspect that a majority of the couples deal with is navigating through conflict. Most of the time this is due to a lack of communication and failure to express what is going wrong in the situation. However, it doesn’t always need to be like that. If you find yourself in this situation with your partner, there are certain ways you can go about handling the situation. In addition, it might even help you strengthen your relationship in the long term.
Resist the Temptation to Yell
When dealing with matters of the heart, it can seem very easy to just let out all your anger on your partner rather than communicate in a calm, cool manner. While it might help you feel lighter, this will only last for a matter of minutes. As soon as you catch your breath, you will realize you may have said some things you’re not too proud of. The worst part is that the damage may be done and you might not be able to reverse what you’ve said. Therefore, rather than speaking out of anger, it would be better to resist the urge to yell and rather, leave the situation to gather your thoughts and calm down. Even though it might seem like the most difficult thing in that moment, it will definitely be worth it.
Listen to Each Other
Listening with the intention to respond is the most common mistake people make when arguing. Rather than hearing each other out in a mature manner, most people listen to what the other person says, ready with a comeback. You have to think about each other because that’s what’s important. The whole point of sitting down for a discussion is that you try and listen to what the other person has to say.
Express Your Feelings
Another common issue is that people aren’t always truthful with how they feel. A lot of the time it may seem easier or better to keep how you feel bottled up, it might even be hard for one person to be more expressive than the other. This is a mistake because sometimes when you let those feelings fester inside of you, the adverse effect has a negative impact. You must be honest with your partner and express how you feel about the relationship and what is going on between the two of you. It is also good to keep in mind that being honest does not mean being blunt and hurtful.